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Israel reminds me of one of those bullies that punches you with your own hand and then asks you why you’re hitting yourself.
Israel reminds me of one of those bullies that punches you with your own hand and then asks you why you’re hitting yourself.

youngblackandvegan:

sexual liberation comes not just from having sex

but from the decision to have your sexual experiences on your own terms

which can mean deciding to have sex with whomever and however many times you want

or deciding to have no sex

the empowerment comes from the decision and having that decision respected

ashkenazi-autie:

eileenthequeen:

eileenthequeen:

So apparently in my sister’s class, there was a trans girl that had been on the cheerleading squad for a while. When she came out, the other girls on the squad made the agreement that whatever boy made fun of her would never get a date. And if you think that’s not the most metal girl alliance ever, you can sit down.

Wow, 500 notes

Girls protecting girls.

seramiles:

lizawithazed:

almost-always-eventually-right:

collaterlysisters:

maxistentialist:

horriblewarning:

DEATH TO TRANSPHOBIA

I regret writing this card, it was a mean, cheap joke. We took it out of the game a while ago.

thanks! I wish that more people in comedy realized they could just, uh, do this, and not throw a big fucking stink about it, and go on to make more jokes that are good instead of bad. It is strange that so many people seem to imagine that a simple and sincere apology is a difficult or terrible thing to give.

Cards Against Humanity is a group of people writing immensely offensive joke prompts and punchlines for a living, and if they’re collectively a better person than you are when it comes to being called out on offensive language and jokes, you should really reconsider your behavior.

good. yes. GOOD.

POSTED FOR A FEW MOTHERFUCKERS WHO SHOULD LEARN FROM THIS

notfuckingcishet:

seekingwillow:

moniquill:

wifigirl2080:

moniquill:

project-raw:

Enough said!

This ‘YOU CAN DO IT!’ shit needs to be -BACKED-.
I am all for the encouragement of urban gardening, but pretty pictures and platitudes aren’t enough. You need to be out there handing out dirt and seeds and containers, you need to be getting out there and building wheelchair-accessible raised community gardens and building seed libraries and showing people how to hang tomato plants off fire escapes and commandeer city land - and even THEN you don’t say ‘YOU CAN DO IT!’ you say ‘Hey, this is how to do it, if you want in.’
Telling people they can do it isn’t doing shit if you’re not actually showing them how and helping to make it possible.
Growing food instead of lawns is good, but can we PLEASE work on doing things to make it possible?
Maybe give people instructions on how to work with an/or fight their home owner’s association, how to appeal to a landlord, how to address local ordinances, and how to grow stealth food crops as ornamental plants in areas where food gardening is banned. Seriously, they will come bulldoze your shit and then bill you for it.
We need more posts instructing people how to guerrilla garden and found community gardens, and fewer posts saying ‘Grow food, not lawns!’
(Also we need to remember that some people will never be able to invest the money, time, and effort both physical and mental that it takes to have a garden, because they have personal care needs/care of others responsibilities/jobs/illnesses/physical disabilities/other shit to do/do not give a dull fuck about gardening and are perfectly happy with a patch of grass or even astroturf AND THAT IS OK TOO.)

Ok not deter anyone from doing this but just an observation I have about home gardens and shit:
To me it’s funny seeing white ppl with these gardens in their yards, like ur ppl literally destroyed whole ecosystems and forests, killed families of color and destroyed cultures, put them in jails and cities with little to no access to the resources that would enable them to have these plots of land, let alone a house to grow it in, have them situated in food deserts and then u kick them out of wherever they were staying in these under served urban areas, refurbish and buy the homes and set up these little gardens so that u can have fresh kale for ur breakfast smoothies.
Just rlly funny.

^Also 100000000% important commentary. The reason you folks HAVE to fight your HOA and the city to be allowed to grow food instead of lawns is because of -entirely racist- anti-gardening laws that are meant to keep out poor people, poc, immigrants, etc.

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That last set of commentary.
Urban husbandry; minding chickens, or pigeons. Urban gardening; little kitchen gardens. All the restrictions in cities and suburbs came from racist, sexist and classist laws to prevent minorities, widowed women/single mothers and immigrants from being self sufficient when the ‘goal’ was to assimilate to a particular look/style of white upperclassness. Everyone’s lawn was supposed to mimic Washington’s Mount Vernon and the like.
During WW2 (I know at least in England) some of those bans lifted for ‘victory gardens’ to take stress off infrastructure and rationing and provide fresh foods. And then they flipped right around again because of the possibility of ‘certain people’ moving towards even a touch of prosperity due to some self sustainability.
From Canada to the US, black neighbourhoods that did such were ‘eminent domained’ and knocked down and laws put up to prevent any possibility of return.
Which is another reason I want to slap ppl who go; ‘But even the poor can grow such and such in a few pots on a fire escape or balcony’. NO THEY CAN’T. In many places that’s cause for eviction.

YES! And good luck growing anything when you work 2 jobs just to get by.
And hey shit, I am a white person with a kitchen garden. But I would never call that shit activism or pretend that it is improving the world in ANY way. It’s improving my own life because it’s fun and relaxing and my landlord won’t let me keep a cat so at least I can care for some lettuce now. But kitchen gardening is a really privileged hobby. It is 100% selfish. It is NOT activism. It does not help the people around me in any way. It does nothing to solve structual inequality or polution. It does nothing to change the fact that the environment is being destroyed and the majority of people brutally exploited and oppressed to support my privileges. It does nothing to undo that privilege. In short: not activism.
Activism is fighting to end food deserts, fighting to ban chemicals used in industrial farming that are destroying our world, fighting for the rights of tennants.

notfuckingcishet:

seekingwillow:

moniquill:

wifigirl2080:

moniquill:

project-raw:

Enough said!

This ‘YOU CAN DO IT!’ shit needs to be -BACKED-.

I am all for the encouragement of urban gardening, but pretty pictures and platitudes aren’t enough. You need to be out there handing out dirt and seeds and containers, you need to be getting out there and building wheelchair-accessible raised community gardens and building seed libraries and showing people how to hang tomato plants off fire escapes and commandeer city land - and even THEN you don’t say ‘YOU CAN DO IT!’ you say ‘Hey, this is how to do it, if you want in.’

Telling people they can do it isn’t doing shit if you’re not actually showing them how and helping to make it possible.

Growing food instead of lawns is good, but can we PLEASE work on doing things to make it possible?

Maybe give people instructions on how to work with an/or fight their home owner’s association, how to appeal to a landlord, how to address local ordinances, and how to grow stealth food crops as ornamental plants in areas where food gardening is banned. Seriously, they will come bulldoze your shit and then bill you for it.

We need more posts instructing people how to guerrilla garden and found community gardens, and fewer posts saying ‘Grow food, not lawns!’

(Also we need to remember that some people will never be able to invest the money, time, and effort both physical and mental that it takes to have a garden, because they have personal care needs/care of others responsibilities/jobs/illnesses/physical disabilities/other shit to do/do not give a dull fuck about gardening and are perfectly happy with a patch of grass or even astroturf AND THAT IS OK TOO.)

Ok not deter anyone from doing this but just an observation I have about home gardens and shit:

To me it’s funny seeing white ppl with these gardens in their yards, like ur ppl literally destroyed whole ecosystems and forests, killed families of color and destroyed cultures, put them in jails and cities with little to no access to the resources that would enable them to have these plots of land, let alone a house to grow it in, have them situated in food deserts and then u kick them out of wherever they were staying in these under served urban areas, refurbish and buy the homes and set up these little gardens so that u can have fresh kale for ur breakfast smoothies.

Just rlly funny.

^Also 100000000% important commentary. The reason you folks HAVE to fight your HOA and the city to be allowed to grow food instead of lawns is because of -entirely racist- anti-gardening laws that are meant to keep out poor people, poc, immigrants, etc.

__

That last set of commentary.

Urban husbandry; minding chickens, or pigeons. Urban gardening; little kitchen gardens. All the restrictions in cities and suburbs came from racist, sexist and classist laws to prevent minorities, widowed women/single mothers and immigrants from being self sufficient when the ‘goal’ was to assimilate to a particular look/style of white upperclassness. Everyone’s lawn was supposed to mimic Washington’s Mount Vernon and the like.

During WW2 (I know at least in England) some of those bans lifted for ‘victory gardens’ to take stress off infrastructure and rationing and provide fresh foods. And then they flipped right around again because of the possibility of ‘certain people’ moving towards even a touch of prosperity due to some self sustainability.

From Canada to the US, black neighbourhoods that did such were ‘eminent domained’ and knocked down and laws put up to prevent any possibility of return.

Which is another reason I want to slap ppl who go; ‘But even the poor can grow such and such in a few pots on a fire escape or balcony’. NO THEY CAN’T. In many places that’s cause for eviction.

YES! And good luck growing anything when you work 2 jobs just to get by.

And hey shit, I am a white person with a kitchen garden. But I would never call that shit activism or pretend that it is improving the world in ANY way. It’s improving my own life because it’s fun and relaxing and my landlord won’t let me keep a cat so at least I can care for some lettuce now. But kitchen gardening is a really privileged hobby. It is 100% selfish. It is NOT activism. It does not help the people around me in any way. It does nothing to solve structual inequality or polution. It does nothing to change the fact that the environment is being destroyed and the majority of people brutally exploited and oppressed to support my privileges. It does nothing to undo that privilege. In short: not activism.

Activism is fighting to end food deserts, fighting to ban chemicals used in industrial farming that are destroying our world, fighting for the rights of tennants.

Academics have developed complicated theories and obscure jargon in an effort to describe what is now referred to as structural racism, yet the concept is fairly straightforward. One theorist, Iris Marion Young, relying on a famous “birdcage” metaphor, explains it this way: If one thinks about racism by examining only one wire of the cage, or one form of disadvantage, it is difficult to understand how and why the bird is trapped. Only a large number of wires arranged in a specific way, and connected with one another, serve to enclose the bird and ensure it cannot escape.

What is particularly important to keep in mind is that any given wire of the cage may or may not be specifically developed for the purpose of trapping the bird, yet it still operates (together with other wires) to restrict its freedom.

Michelle Alexander, The New Jim Crow (via staininyourbrain)

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares”

– Henri J.M. Nouwen (via observando)

qqqqcomic-chick:

wombattea:

sizvideos:

How to catch an emu - Video

LET ME TELL YOU A THING

THIS IS A LEGIT THING

THIS IS LITERALLY WHAT PEOPLE DO TO GET EMUS TO COME CLOSE

Apparently you lie on the ground on your back and move your arms and legs.

And the emus are very curious and come over like, “The fuck is that.”

And that’s literally what it is. They come over wondering what the fuck you’re doing

This might be my favorite piece of information I have ever learned.