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Also, she’s FAKE, or at least highly exaggerated. Like, this isn’t even possible due to federal regulations.
Um… why would it be her fault if her kid’s fathers don’t pay child support? Isn’t that the father’s issue?
Of course not. She’s A Single Black Mother On Welfare. Everything is her fault.
man like ppl who post these kinda things must not know how impossible it is to make ends meet on that little a month. WOW 1K THATS SO MUCh ahah yeah after rent and bills and daily expenses she must be rollin in that like $5 left over shit man look out
Welfare is not ment to live off of. It’s help/aid. STOP FORGETTING SHE IS ABLE TO WORK.
IF she is real, and IF she is getting cash assistance, then she is in work training for a minimum of 30 hours a week and she has to provide job search logs to her caseworker on the regular.
IF she is real, and IF she is getting cash assistance, then she has a 5 year LIFETIME limit of receiving that benefit.
IF she is real, and IF she is getting cash assistance, then filing for child support from all the children’s fathers was a requirement for being approved. Meaning, if they’re not paying, that’s on them, not her.
IF she is real, and IF she is getting cash assistance, she is still broke as hell. I could barely support myself making $1200/mo, much less 4 other people who would be completely dependent on me.
But considering all of those factors, it’s pretty doubtful that she’s real, as I said in my first reply.
That last comment = Perfection. She’s an imaginary boogeyman of terrified conservatives. The Welfare Queen, was originally invented, whole-cloth, by the Regan administration.
BOOoOOOOOooooo! Teh sexually profligate poors are coming rob you for your tax moneez! They want to live in your neighborhood and get their poor cooties on you!
It’s easier to believe in her as she is presented, than it is to believe that maybe, just maybe, The American Dream (fanfare) doesn’t happen as easily, nor as equally, as we’d like to think.
"It’s not MY fault I can’t get rich! It’s them greedy poors takin’ all my money-taxes!"
Look, there are cheats in every system, public and private. But they are the exception, not the rule. And they are never, ever as egregious as political PR would make them out to be. Unless you’re a major corporation that ca afford hundreds of loophole-seeking lawyers, it’s pretty damn difficult to get away with cheating the government.
Commentary via dynastylnoire
She’s probably not real at all. 1200 is nothing. Then she’s has 4 kids, if they are in day care that is probably all her money.
Look at it like this. Here rent is less than everywhere else, you can get two bedroom for around 600 dollars.
Okay BUT gas and electric still has to be paid. +235 dollars.
She still has to get groceries. She may be getting food stamps but again she has 4 kids. She probably will run out of food as food stamps have been cut.
Kids need clothes, they out grow shoes, coats, etc. they break things, they are involved in extra curricular activities. I’m not even going to get into how much getting for kids dressed from walmart alone can cost. If they are in sports or the arts add more money.
Oh and then how is she getting around? I think bus passes here are around 90 dollars for a zone 1 monthly. 25 for a weekly. She and Her kids will more than likely need them to get back and forth if she doesn’t have a car.
I have a honda, to fill my gas tank is 35 dollars. I’m a new driver my car insurance is 215 dollars. Does she have a warranty? Add 130 dollars a month. Oh and if she didn’t buy it out right add the car payment 170 every two weeks.
1200 dollars a month for one person goes fast.
Oh add doctor bills, medicine, co pays, trips to the barber shop, beauty salon, toys, glasses and braces to that too.
And to be fair, if our tax dollars are keeping her and her family alive we should be glad. You know what’s despicable? Billions of tax dollars being spent on wars that are killing innocent people world wide. Be enraged about that.
Commentary via WGC
According to Truth-Out in 2012, the average American taxpayer making $50,000 per year paid just $36 towards SNAP, while paying $6,000 a year towards corporate welfare.
According to Think by The Numbers, About $59 billion (3 percent of the total federal budget) is spent on traditional social welfare programs and $92 billion (5 percent of the federal budget) is spent on corporate subsidies.
According to the Center on Budget and Policy Priorities, “Nationwide, in any given month, a total of 900,000 veterans nationwide lived in households that relied on SNAP to provide food for their families in 2011”
Oh, look. Facts.
Opponents of abortion seem similar to oponents of sex work... -
If privileged women were as likely to do survival sex work as they are likely to get an abortion, there would be no feminist debate on sex work
[I’m about to talk about women here because women make up the super majority of survival sex workers and people who have had abortions, and I want to acknowledge that this is a gendered issue. Please note, however, that there are a number of men and nonbinary people who also do both.]
The parallels between abortion and survival sex work are staggering:
- It’s no one’s first choice to have an abortion or do survival sex work.
- It only happens because other options have failed.
- Other options fail in large part because society refuses to provide them.
- Some women find abortion traumatic. Some women find survival sex work traumatic. Some don’t much mind.
- Some women who have had abortions go on to advocate for the criminalization of abortion. Some women who have done survival sex work go on to advocate for the criminalization of sex work. Most do not.
- Many anti-abortion advocates believe that punishing doctors and not patients is a sensible solution. Many anti-sex work advocates believe that punishing clients and not workers is a sensible solution. In both cases, it is simply a method of backdoor criminalization of the women.
- Opponents of both point to the disproportionate number of poor women of color who have abortions/ do survival sex work as proof that abortions/ sex work are a form of racist + classist violence, instead of proof that poor women of color are less likely to have other options thanks to systemic racism + classism.
- Opponents of both point to the fact that some women are forced to have abortions/ do sex work as proof that it needs to be criminalized, ignoring that criminalization makes it harder to track these women down.
- No current sex worker or woman who currently needs an abortion advocates for its criminalization.
- Opponents of both classify it as violence against women and an example of patriarchal control of women.
- Opponents of both confuse prohibition with abolition. Prohibition of both fails to decrease the number of survival sex workers/ women seeking abortions but increases the amount of harm done to them.
- Opponents of both refuse to employ harm reduction methods, even though they’re the only ones proven to work.
The only reason why there’s a feminist ‘debate’ over criminalizing sex work instead of advocating for decriminalization, harm reduction, and the provision of other options, is because privileged women are so incredibly unlikely to have to do survival sex work. They can *afford* to focus on their icky feelings and desire to punish the clients, because it’s not their lives that are at stake.
Seriously. Thank you. While reading some of the disappointingly ignorant comments/submissions on this blog make my blood boil, seeing so many people go, “Hey! This is a thing that happens!” is super comforting.
Do you know how weird it is to just… sit on the bus or the train and have some dude’s legs literally push your legs closer together, like, probably at least four times a week, if not every day, and quietly think, Oh god, crunch tighter so you don’t have to feel him against you, or this sucks, ugh, I wish he wouldn’t touch me with his legs so much but I can’t scoot over any farther or make myself any smaller, or should I ask him to please give me a little more space or would that cause a scene?
Thinking this shit was making me crazy. I thought I was being paranoid or overdramatic or sensitive. Now I know that there are lots and lots and LOTS of other women out there who think and feel that way, too. It isn’t just me! Men do this thing and it makes LOTS of other women uncomfortable, too! That’s so validating it isn’t even funny! (That’s also really disturbing!)
So… um, yeah. Thank you for this blog! It really helps.
The entire anti-vax movement has its roots in the idea that autism is tragic and horrible. If we didn’t have the rhetoric of fear, tragedy and condescension toward autism that Autism Speaks and others like them have ingrained into most of the populace, the anti-vax movement wouldn’t have gotten as far as it has today.
Is the entire anti-vax thing based in autism, tho? I thought a lot of it was to do with like other side effects? Allergy, cancer, side-effects (like rashes, nerve damage, etc.)
Because my parents weren’t exactly anti-vax but like vax-reluctant, after the baby vaccines. And I know some anti-vax parents. And none of them ever mentioned autism. idk maybe it’s an american thing?
Just to be clear, vaccines don’t cause any of those things.
Vaccins were first used in Europe at the end of the 18th century. A strong anti-vax movement existed there from the start. The term autism wasn’t used to describe what we call Autism today before the 1940’s. So the anti-vax movement has about 150 years of roots before people even started to become aware of the existence of autism. Since then though, they’ve taken advantage of every possible stigma around autism to advance their anti-vax point of views.
It should be mentioned that China and India had vaccinations as early as 1000 AD, possibly much much earlier (estimates vary widely) and from there the knowledge of vaccins spread to the rest of Asia, Africa and Turkey. Only Europe stuck it’s head in the sand and had to invent vaccins on it’s own before they started using them and introduced them to America. I can’t find a mention of an anti-vax movement anywhere before the introduction of vaccins in Europe./p>
People believe that little white kids in the suburbs have the right to live. They have the right to be happy. They have the right to peace. When it comes to black babies in urban neighborhoods, people don’t believe these children deserve to have similar rights. When people say things like ‘I can’t believe this would happen here,’ they are effectively saying that there are some neighborhoods where these tragic outcomes are far more acceptable. I reject this notion entirely, and it is reflective of both white supremacy and classism. — The World Cries for Newtown’s Children, but Few of Us Think About Dead Brown Babies, Dr. Boyce Watkins (via monkeyknifefight)
(Source: maarnayeri, via notfuckingcishet)
Have you ever heard the phrase cockblocking? You know, you’re at a bar, talking to a girl, and what happens? Her less attractive friend comes over and ruins everything. Cockblock. Well I have to tell you something guys: I have been the less attractive friend, and you were NOT cockblocked. I was following orders from my better-looking friend that she did not wanna fuck you. …Girls have two signals for their friends: ‘I’m gonna fuck him’ and ‘HELP.’ —
Amy Schumer [x] (via rashaka)
The number of “get me out of here” tactics women have developed and shared to help each other escape from overly-insistent-to-borderline-predatory dudes in public places should probably be enough evidence of the existence of rape culture all on its own.
I especially like how, in the majority of cases, you don’t have to verbally communicate what your signals are to other women. I’ve had women I didn’t even know come save me. Literally every woman recognizes the “Dear god, help me” facial expression, and knows exactly what they should do. We don’t get a handbook for this. We don’t have a sit-down nail polish party where we talk about a standardized woman code for preventing creepers. It’s just part of being a woman.
BUT LOL RAPE CULTURE DOESN’T EXIST.
Yup. I’ve definitely taken strangers by the arm and pulled her aside to go, “Oh my GOD it’s you! How ARE YOU?!? It’s been so long!” and then been like “hey I could overhear that guy who wouldn’t leave you alone so I figured I’d give you an out” and then see their VISIBLY RELIEVED expressions. This is part of girl code, because rape culture is that pervasive.
I once had a girl sit on my lap and say “hey baby” after she witnessed a guy (who was easily 20+ years older than me) hitting on me and harassing me for my number even after I told him I was taken. After he got up and left she asked if I was okay. I couldn’t thank her enough times, I even bought her a drink.
We have done this. In fact, we are this. Because we are asexual and we don’t like alcohol so we never drink, we have gone with friends to parties/places where our sole job was to keep an eye out for everyone and be the permanent ‘aggressive man-sheild.’ Not one of our female friends has ever questioned this or found it all strange. In fact, often once they realized we were willing to do it, it would be pre-arranged. Every guy friend we ever did this in front of or tried to explain to looked flabbergasted. They had no idea that this was a) an intentional thing, b) a planned ahead thing, or c) universal.
Rape culture is the fact that every woman understands this. Male privilege is the fact that no guy on earth seems to know or understand.
I’ve been asked to pretend to be my friend’s girlfriend every time we go out at night, just because she wears clothes that show off her curves and guys won’t leave her alone. They only back off when I put my arm around her and act as if we’re together romantically, and sometimes not even then.
i once ran interference for a friend, only to receive the unwanted advances myself. he wouldn’t back off until my (male) friend literally wrapped me up in his arms and acted as if he was my S.O.
It happens online too. A guy I know started Facebook-stalking me after a recent interaction, and my roommate immediately got on Facebook and told him she was my girlfriend. He thankfully backed off after that.
I can’t count the number of times I have pretended to be somebody’s girlfriend or sister in a bar when a guy wouldn’t leave her alone. Both with friends and strangers.
After reading these, I feel like taking a shower. Because I’m the designated driver pretty much every time, not being a big fan of alcohol, but I rarely, if ever, intervene. And yeah, I’m small and pretty physically weak, but I could put my foot down verbally if it came down to it. I’m just too scared.
You’re probably scared of confronting the guys. And you should be. That’s what this whole post is about. Rape culture is so prevalent and socially accepted as the rule of the land that if someone confronts a guy and tells him directly to back off, someone is getting hurt. That’s why all of the testimonies here are examples of how to deflect. How women all learn methods of pulling a woman away from a situation with a guy who isn’t allowing her to say no, by making up some lie that will get the guy to let her go without sending him into a rage and deciding to teach you both a lesson about knowing your place and submitting to rape culture. Men are dangerous in these situations because all of society backs them up as just a nice guy who deserves a chance, and vilifies any woman who refuses to give him a chance. Women are not allowed to say no. So other women have to rescue the women saying no and pull them away with some made up excuse. Otherwise the situation will escalate and the ones who get hurt are always the women.
Women absolutely have to learn rescue tactics for each other, but it’s kind of funny how we describe really obvious facial expressions and body language as “secret signals.” The reality is that women telegraph disinterest in these aggressive men, making it super obvious, but men choose to ignore it. Total strangers who are just sitting nearby or happen to glance their way will be able to see that the woman isn’t interested, but the guy making the advances is somehow oblivious? Unlikely.
And perceived physical power of the woman doesn’t matter either, I have had to do this for other rollergirls. Even after bouts where they are bruised, sweaty, and partying with a bunch of other built women in the same jersey.