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SusanWright SusanWright: about 1 month ago

Actually, I think both reasons are very good reasons for the BDSM communities to take responsibility for trying to change the fact that rape and sexual assault are under reported in the BDSM communities.

1. We have to do what we can to change the “rape culture” and NCSF is working on that in part through our latest initiative Consent Counts (which is why this group is here and you’re commenting on this problem - because it’s one that needs to change). We have other initiatives coming under Consent Counts that are being crafted right now in part because of these discussions here and elsewhere.

2. The BDSM communities need to know we have the added issue of the stigma of BDSM to overcome. NCSF was created to destigmatize BDSM and is doing that through all of our programs every time we reach out to the mainstream and educate people that BDSM is not violence. We need to consider this stigma when we look at under reporting because, like I said, there is nothing worse than having a victim look at me and decline going to the police because being outed as part of the BDSM communities is worse than being raped. It shouldn’t be like that.

Yes, my survey was about people being persecuted because of their kink. That’s what I do, and that’s what NCSF does. Anything else is outside the scope of this organization. Which BTW does a tremendous amount of work on a tiny budget (PLEASE join NCSF now if you support our efforts - every dollar counts in this struggle).

I am confident that we can change the way things are as far as people being persecuted for their kink and educating about consent itself. I believe that we can have an affect on the mainstream in the same way the term “consenting adults” and the concept of safewords have permeated the mainstream. I’m hoping the new initiatives NCSF is working on can be an example not only for BDSM groups and events, but for the mainstream, and we change the way people view consent and the need for consent before any personal activities take place.

I’m an activist, and I believe in making change, not excuses.

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Oh yeah… why is this relevant? Because of this:

JohnBaku JohnBaku 12 days ago

Update on Naming Abusers

Just an update, on top of asking for your input, we are also now currently working with the NCSF to not only figure out what stance should be taken on “naming abusers” but what else we can do to productively deal with consent violations that happen in a BDSM context.

I know a lot of you are very passionate about this topic and for very good reason. So I know it is a lot to ask of you, but please be patient with us. It would be reckless of us to come to a decision overnight because, as you all know, there are a lot of complex issues that must be considered.

This is not a decision we are taking by ourselves but a decision we will be taking with both your input and that of the NCSF’s.