Reblog if you aren’t physically disabled but have used a handicap bathroom stall and/or parking spot
and include your address so I can go break your fucking spine, you piece of shit.
No, it’s not okay if you are pregnant or over weight or transgender or in a hurry. I’m still going to break your fucking pregnant, fat, transgender, lazy spine.
1. in the late stages of pregnancy, the pregnant individual may have difficulty getting onto and off of the toilet. in which case, the bars can help the transition. also, if a person has an invisible illness, pregnancy can aggravate it or cause additional pain that makes using the regular stalls without such assistance impossible.
2. the way many bathroom stalls are currently built are tiny. they cannot accommodate all body sizes. while it’s unfortunate that people designing the stalls did not have the foresight to think of this factor (and the needs of disabled patrons to have access to their stalls), in some instances the individual using them does not have a choice. if they cannot fit comfortably in the stall, it can cause undo stress on the body, pain and even injury. also, weight issues commonly result from or coexist with chronic illnesses and other disabilities, for a variety of reasons. that person may in fact be disabled and you’d be too busy judging them based on their appearances because of your preconceived notion of what disability looks like.
3. trans individuals are exposed to high levels of violence and bigotry, especially depending on the bathroom that they use. trans people get forcefully removed and barred from using gendered bathrooms because of people’s bigoted preconceived notions of gender and transgenderism. trans people get assaulted on a regular basis for using gendered bathrooms, because cis people feel they don’t belong in their space or view them as a threat simply for taking a damn piss. places willing to accommodate with gender neutral bathrooms are still few and far between, and out of fear for our lives and safety, many opt to use the only gender neutral stall that is made available to patrons - which happens to also be for those with disabilities. let’s also remember that there are trans people that do not identify with the gender binary, and thus gendered bathrooms are harmful and inappropriate for them and can cause mental stress (hello!). they need gender neutral bathrooms. also, these trans people could be disabled as well (hello again!).
is it unfortunate that businesses and offices don’t recognize the needs of many of their patrons and thus develop accommodating rest rooms for everyone in need? yes. but the responsibility in those instances is on them, not on those of us that literally have no other choice or are trying to protect ourselves from bodily harm while we just try to take a damn piss. and attitudes like this just make the environment more hostile, shaming us for needing to take a damn piss in a world that doesn’t recognize that people of all types have bodily functions.
intersectionality exists, and so do the needs of people in different circumstances from yours. recognize it.
At my university the accessible washrooms happened to also be the gender not specified ones. As far as I’m aware, it wasn’t people looking for a safe place to pee who locked themselves in the bathroom for an hour getting high. Those washrooms existed because people needed to use a fucking washroom.
Everything else in the commentary was brilliant.
there are people that take advantage of these stalls, i do recognize that. i don’t like it either, especially since i’m one of those individuals that needs them and people will frequently take them not realizing that there is someone with a need for them right behind them because i don’t ‘look like it’. however, we can’t hate on trans people for needing access to those bathrooms as well for the sake of personal safety. that was my point - the OP is specifically targeting trans people. that is not ok. that is cis privilege at its finest. i’m ok with hating on people that purposefully take advantage of shit and leave the rest of us hanging because they’re being assholes. i’m not ok on hating on people with a valid need for safe restrooms. esp since i’m one of them.
[also edited my original post for clarity in section 2]
Sorry, I did actually understand what you meant. I had seen the OP a while ago and it made me angry for a number of reasons, and the trans* comment was one of them. I realize the way I worded my last sentence was awkward, I meant I didn’t need to add anything to the other points. I added the part that I did, because I think people don’t realize that sometimes a safe washroom for someone who isn’t cis happens to be the same as the accessible washrooms, and it has nothing to do with taking advantage of the washroom, and everything to do with being safe.
People abuse washrooms. Alot. I won’t say it doesn’t happen. BUT, I get very angry when I see policing happening because it’s never as simple as someone makes it out to be.
(and I was very thankful of your commentary because it was needed and very well done)
ok yeah, i think i understand where the confusion came from. apologies if i misinterpreted what you meant or if it seemed like i did, i’m in a pretty bad pain fog this morning and it’s been impacting my clarity of reading and communicating. my cis privilege comment was targeted at the OP - i’m sorry if my poor wording suggested otherwise. language and i don’t really get along well, so i’m prone to f*ing things up when i try to talk to people. i acknowledge that and take responsibility for how my communication can be interpreted.
thank you for the compliment tho, and now that i realize we’re both on the same page, i definitely agree with you :) restrooms are a really complicated matter and i wish people would try to be more understanding of why the common setup many businesses and offices have right now just isn’t effective.
All the commentary is great, I just want to add that temporary and situational disabilities exist. I’m currently pregnant and I’ve had so many SEVERE health problems that I’ve required accommodations just to function. This is a temporary disability, it’s very real, and I don’t deserve to have that ignored or erased just because the affects on my abilities aren’t lifelong. And as has already been mentioned, there are reasons people without “regular” disabilities (not sure what other word to use there) might have a legitimate need to use an accessible restroom because something that isn’t normally an issue can become an issue in certian circumstances. Denying people in need accommodations because they don’t need accommodations all the time is seriously fucked up and terrible. Just because there are people who are “worse off” doesn’t mean the situational need for accommodations and accessibility disappears or is less important in that person’s life. The OP is seriously an asshole.
— Margaret Cho (via mslorelei)
When I was little some kids at school called my mom fat. I ran home crying and told her. She said, “Baby, I am fat. Why you crying about the truth?” That surprised me so much I stopped crying.
The she continued, “When I was little people teased me cuz I was too skinny. Now I’m old and they make jokes cuz I’m too fat. But the last laugh is that I like me regardless. Always have and always will.”
I also remember her saying, “If someone calls you or your mama fat just say,’I already knew that’ because it’s true. Plus being fat isn’t a bad thing just because they say it rudely.”
My mom teaching me radical selflove in elementary school.