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Did you know that Emergency Contraception may not be effective if you have a BMI greater than 25? I didn’t. 

When I went in to Planned Parenthood, they prescribed me a double dose of Ella. The pharmacist at Walgreens had never filled it before and wouldn’t give me the right dosage so I left. Then my period started so I figured I was good. Fingers crossed. 

Definitely planning on trying out the copper IUD later this month. I’m not looking forward to possibly increased cramps and menstrual flow, but whatevs. Maybe I’ll get lucky. And if not, there’s always weed and heating pads. 

joqatanarama:

cloudcuckoolander527:

talisguy:

Signal boosting in case anyone needed to know this. 

This is informative as heck. Show this to everyone!

I don’t need it anymore but You Do.

mscrosswords:

lets-go-lesbos:

shittyykittyy:

misandrist:

sarazeee:

imprincessconsuelabananahammoc:

lesbatronn:

shittier:

heyfriendheyyy:

prepare yourselves for total fucking cuteness

Literally have the biggest smile on my face now.

Can this happen to me in real life

I’m actually done with how fucking cute this is

perfect.

So cuteeee Fuck..inspired a MUCH needed pms-cry that had been dying to happen for a couple of days. #bawling

the sounds i made were not human.

:-3

Some of the dangers of glorifying obesity may include:

- Young girls might not fear getting fat more than they fear nuclear war, losing their parents, or cancer.
- Fat people might no longer be at an increased risk of having their illnesses (including cancers) misdiagnosed or diagnosed late, by doctors working in a medical community in which disdain for fat bodies is rampant, or given the wrong dosages of medicine — both of which can cost millions in unnecessary tests and prolonged treatment.
- Eating disorders — which admittedly are not exclusively about weight but which are cultivated by a culture that identifies fatness as a failure of control — might no longer be a central feature in the lives of 10 million Americans.
- We might not have a weight loss industry that generated $60 billion in revenue in the United States last year, mostly by making women feel like crap about themselves.
- Fat people might not have to worry about whether seats on airplanes or in restaurants or basically anywhere they go can physically accommodate them.
- Dudes might not yell at me in parking lots.
- Fat people everywhere might develop a powerful self-respect, and demand respect from others, and might be less likely to suffer bullying and shaming in silence.
- Fat people might not be so handy for scapegoating, schadenfreude and cheap laughs, or as a means by which others can feel superior.
- People of all sizes might feel better about themselves, because no one would be wasting energy and focus worrying about what would happen to them, how their life would be ruined, if they became fat.

The amazing Lesley Kinzel

http://www.xojane.com/issues/the-problem-with-glorifying-obesity (via fatstrawberries)

The biggest danger of saying no to the ‘obese’ construct, otherwise known as the above is that fat people won’t destroy themselves so they can fit this predestined mould. Fat people are not a disease. We are supposed to make ourselves into that by making ourselves sick. By depressing ourselves, by giving ourselves anxiety disorders. Things which are linked to the creation of eating disorders.

Which is why fat phobes hate, hate, hate HAES. Because it is seen as a potential barrier to the creation of a “disease class”. Which is the point of ‘obesity’ to worsen fat people’s physical health, through breaking their spirit- by destroying their mental health.

That’s the first real motivation evah. Seriously, that’s why everyone as well as just fat people should stop hating themselves, right now.

(via bumsquash)

bonkalore:

nepputune:

So I’ve seen a whole bunch of posts about body positivity. And it would be great, but they’re really bad at actually representing different body types; big girls in particular. So I’ve drawn a comparison.
I’m tired of seeing posts that totally miss the point. Those posts are supposed to make you feel good about your body. But it’s hard for bigger girls to feel good about themselves if they’re represented by women that aren’t big. Fat is okay. But here’s some things that people almost always ignore when drawing bigger ladies:
- Rolls
- Cellulite
- Stretch marks
And some misconceptions/ common mistakes:
- Larger breasts ( a LOT larger) 
- Wider hips
- Same size waist as girls with less body fat
I’m going to put it bluntly: I’m sick of seeing fatter girls be misrepresented. I’m tired of seeing posts getting glory for drawing bigger girls when they don’t. I have yet to see a body positivity post that shows cellulite, stretch marks, folds, and spillage. These things are real, and they’re beautiful.
So try and remember these things next time you try and represent fat girls. Because if you’re not thinking about the “ugly” stuff, you’re doing it wrong.

This is basically what I’ve been trying to do more with drawing these body types in general.
I get kind of upset when all those little details are left out but then again I just really like paying attention to detail and making my characters as close to someone you’d see in person as I can usually.

bonkalore:

nepputune:

So I’ve seen a whole bunch of posts about body positivity. And it would be great, but they’re really bad at actually representing different body types; big girls in particular. So I’ve drawn a comparison.

I’m tired of seeing posts that totally miss the point. Those posts are supposed to make you feel good about your body. But it’s hard for bigger girls to feel good about themselves if they’re represented by women that aren’t big. Fat is okay. But here’s some things that people almost always ignore when drawing bigger ladies:

- Rolls

- Cellulite

- Stretch marks

And some misconceptions/ common mistakes:

- Larger breasts ( a LOT larger) 

- Wider hips

- Same size waist as girls with less body fat

I’m going to put it bluntly: I’m sick of seeing fatter girls be misrepresented. I’m tired of seeing posts getting glory for drawing bigger girls when they don’t. I have yet to see a body positivity post that shows cellulite, stretch marks, folds, and spillage. These things are real, and they’re beautiful.

So try and remember these things next time you try and represent fat girls. Because if you’re not thinking about the “ugly” stuff, you’re doing it wrong.

This is basically what I’ve been trying to do more with drawing these body types in general.

I get kind of upset when all those little details are left out but then again I just really like paying attention to detail and making my characters as close to someone you’d see in person as I can usually.

teratocybernetics:

strixus:

thefrogman:

There are people who are convinced that shame and guilt are effective ways to motivate someone to address their weight issues. A recent study has indicated that this method can actually make things much worse.

When a person with overeating issues gets depressed, food is often what they use to seek comfort. You are not helping. You are not being supportive. You are not giving us “tough love.” You are triggering our depression and causing us to eat even more.

Please stop making us eat your words. They are very… fattening. 

Artwork by Sarah Johnson [website | tumblr | twitter]

Yep. This. 

Look, I’m 5’4” and slightly over 200 lbs. Yep, Fat. Oh yes, and a woman, which makes it MUCH worse. 

Why am I fat? 

I have Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis, I have Trigeminal Neuralgia, and I have multiple old injuries from a very active and outdoorsy teenage life. I am in pain. I take meds for pain. Moving is VERY hard, and some days I can’t get out of bed.

My immune system sucks at doing things right, so I get sick very often, and suffer from a lot of infections. I have to have a steroid injection, or courses of steroids, at least 5 times a year, if not more frequently. Steroids make it harder to loose the weight you gain, and make you gain weight.

I have narcolepsy, EDS type, which means I am tired all the time. No matter how much I sleep, or not sleep, I am exhausted all the time, something which my meds only mask. This makes any prolonged physical activity very hard, as I feel like I’ve been hiking for a week every morning when I wake up.

I eat between 1500 to 1000 calories on average every day. I usually have to force myself to eat that much. Some days I eat more (2000 is about my max) but many days I eat less (800, sometimes as low as 500 if I’m not feeling well). I mostly eat fruits, vegs, meat, and pasta. All low in bad fats, all high in vitamins and minerals. I’ve eaten this way for 3 years now.

I’m still 200 lbs. 

"Oh you need more physical activity! It will wake you right up!"

"Best thing for arthritis is exercise and weight loss!"

"You wouldn’t need that cane if you lost weight!"

"Fatass! You aren’t handicapped! Get up!"

"You’re too young to be sick! Go get some exercise! Leave the house for once!"

"Starting to put on some more weight there!" 

"Oh, you need to loose weight, that’s all."

"Looking a bit fat in the face lately."

Every time someone says these things to me, all I can think is “Why do I bother? It isn’t worth it. I deny myself so many good things, and all I hear is this. Never a word of praise.”

All I’d like is “Wow, you’re in good shape for everything wrong with you.” (I am!) “Wow, you’re looking very good today!” “Wow, no one could tell you’ve got all this wrong with you!” (I do hear this from time to time, but usually its the shocked response of someone hearing what I’m dealing with.) 

Sometimes I get those words, but they sound empty to my ears. All I hear is my mother saying that I’ve been gaining weight, and I should be careful, or an OBGYN saying how unhealthy my weight was before she looked at the rest of my chart, and had to backpedal like crazy, or hear the laughing sneers of people who see me using my cane and assume all that’s wrong with me is that I’m fat.

Those stick much harder that any good word. Those hurt. 

^^^

I work pretty hard at maintaining being in the shape I am because I’m terrified of falling apart when I get older. I cannot fucking *imagine* remaining even baseline functional with all that Strixus has to deal with, let alone keeping this shit up, AND all of that in the face of people who will judge. I’ve been that person that’s all ‘Exercise fixes everything!’ and I want to kick the hell out of past-me for it, because THAT’S not helping. If someone asks me for advice, when they want to start a thing, sure. If I see a particular video that looks helpful for something someone I’m friends with has trouble with, I’ll point it out. But unsolicited advice is probably not a good idea, and unsolicited advice to a complete fucking stranger is Not Okay.