At one point in time (hell, probably about this time last year), I had planned to do some photo shoots featuring beautiful male submission. Now, I don’t know exactly what this says about me, but every idea I came up with had to do with food. Specifically, serving food off of yummy men. Started with sushi, went through chocolate, fruit, and pizza, and ended up fantasizing about a full pancake breakfast. That one still makes me salivate.

Never did do the shoot. Life got in the way, big time, as it often tends to do. But someday I’d still like to, and this reminded me of that.

One thing I notice in this piece (thanks to maymay eyes) is that we can’t see the male’s face. We can’t see all of the female’s either, but we can see that she is enjoying herself.

I don’t know what to think about the lack of expressive male faces in submissive art. All I know is that from my own personal experience taking nekkid pictures, it’s not too dreadfully hard to get people to pose in front of the camera, but very, very few of them wish to have their faces shown on the internet.

I originally felt rather adamantly the same way until I started doing adult work and was persuaded that putting my face out there would make me seem more authentic and trustworthy. Other people don’t necessarily have that financial motivation. I would never have put my face on the internet at all had I not started doing adult work.

And, let’s face it - there’s stigma to appearing in smut. Folks with day jobs don’t wanna risk that. Even folks without day jobs often don’t. Folks with kids. Everyone makes their own choices.

But I suspect part of that choice is the double stigma of being a submissive male in our society. We’ve never talked about it explicitly, but I have a partner I often switch with. We never did any D/S stuff but still the dynamic appeared uneven. He would top me in public, and I would top him in private. I dunno how much of that was exhibitionism or fear of humiliation or just plain projection/laziness on my part. Probably the latter.

But I grudgingly have to admit that even though he is openly out about being kinky, I never posted any identifiable pictures of him bottoming to me because I personally thought they were too intimate, too exposing. I could have, and he would most likely have let me without a word, but … and this is my point … it was MY perception that it would lower his perceived status. Which is kind of an icky point to contemplate in regards to my perception of him, because while I don’t think that *I* think that way, I do think that *other* people think that way. Again, projection? Quite possibly, I don’t know. But it’s worth taking a good, hard look at.

Perhaps I was just afraid my contempt would show through. Because it was there, just a little bit. Not because he was bottoming to me, but because we had other problems in our relationship, mainly dealing with differing levels of sexual attraction and interest. And I didn’t want to make him look foolish to other people, even though I sometimes made him look that way for me. In a way, it was kinda fun, cuz, y’know, he hated it. Therapeutic, that.

Which resonates with a conversation I had this morning in the tub about love and hate and BDSM and relationships. I wish I could remember what exactly was said, but it was something about BDSM relieving the pressure of the relationship in a safe way.

This is something I want to explore more, but it terrifies me. I want the authenticity, the achingly real… but I know it will take me apart and put me back together in a different way when all is said and done. And that’s some scary shit.

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wildunicornherd:

thinksquad:

Here is a Science fair project presented by a girl in a secondary school in Sussex . In it she took filtered water and divided it into two parts. The first part she heated to boiling in a pan on the stove, and the second part she heated to boiling in a microwave. Then after cooling she used the water to water two identical plants to see if there would be any difference in the growth between the normal boiled water and the water boiled in a microwave. She was thinking that the structure or energy of the water may be compromised by microwave. As it turned out, even she was amazed at the difference, after the experiment which was repeated by her class mates a number of times and had the same result.

It has been known for some years that the problem with microwaved anything is not the radiation people used to worry about, it’s how it corrupts the DNA in the food so the body can not recognize it.

Microwaves don’t work different ways on different substances. Whatever you put into the microwave suffers the same destructive process. Microwaves agitate the molecules to move faster and faster. This movement causes friction which denatures the original make-up of the substance. It results in destroyed vitamins, minerals, proteins and generates the new stuff called radiolytic compounds, things that are not found in nature.

So the body wraps it in fat cells to protect itself from the dead food or it eliminates it fast. Think of all the Mothers heating up milk in these ‘Safe’ appliances. What about the nurse in Canada that warmed up blood for a transfusion patient and accidentally killed him when the blood went in dead. But the makers say it’s safe. But proof is in the pictures of living plants dying!

NO, YOU PIG-IGNORANT ASSWIPES.

SOME KID’S CLASS PROJECT IS NOT REAL SCIENTIFIC RESEARCH. YOU’VE HEARD OF “DOUBLE BLIND”, RIGHT? CALL ME WHEN IT’S PUBLISHED IN NATURE.

the structure or energy of the water

what the fuck does that even mean you realize that a water molecule is made up of three fucking atoms and if you rearrange it it isn’t water anymore and you would fucking notice

the problem with microwaved anything is not the radiation people used to worry about

Here is a handy diagram I drew of all the different types of radiation:

Microwaves != nuclear reactors, so calm your tits.

it’s how it corrupts the DNA in the food so the body can not recognize it

…do you understand what DNA is and how eating works? DNA is a jumble of protein in the middle of each cell and it tells the cells in that particular organism how to make more cells. Your body does not care about whether your food has any DNA in it or not. The chemicals it cares about are things like vitamins and sugars, as well as inorganic shit like salt.

(You can denature DNA by heating it or using chemicals like urea. It is like what happens when you fry an egg, which is basically a big glob of protein—the strands break apart and it looks like tiny white strings. Very cool.)

Microwaves agitate the molecules to move faster and faster.

I…just…that is the fucking definition of heat, whether you’re heating something over a flame or in a microwave or using the Sun. The difference is that microwaves mostly affect the water molecules in your food and they don’t need to use as much heat. Water boils at 100°C, which is just about as hot as water can get before it just turns into steam; but that’s like the lowest setting on your oven. Oven- or stove-cooked food tastes different partly because it uses higher temperatures and partly because heat is transferred in a different way.

This movement causes friction

That’s not what friction is.

It results in destroyed vitamins, minerals, proteins and generates the new stuff called radiolytic compounds, things that are not found in nature.

Let’s take these one at a time.

• Vitamins are classified as water-soluble or fat-soluble. So cooking things in water will dissolve the water-soluble vitamins (C and all the B’s). Just plain heat doesn’t do that, so microwaving veggies—which keeps the water in—is actually a healthier option.
• Proteins: Breaking the chemical bonds in proteins (denaturing) is a part of any cooking. However, denatured protein is still nutritious—that’s why you can meet your protein intake with foods like fried eggs and baked chicken.
• Minerals are just chemical elements, like off the periodic table—sodium, iron, potassium. (Vitamins and proteins are very complex combinations of elements.)

Which brings me to the “radiolytic compound” bullshit. When you talk about breaking apart, say, iron—you’re talking about breaking down the iron atoms themselves. Which is a whole lot different than breaking the bonds between atoms. It takes hella radiation. You need shit like gamma rays—the OOOH SCARY NUCULAR radiation—which we’ve already established do not come from your microwave.

things that are not found in nature

What the shit does that even mean? You all know radioactive elements occur in nature, right? In rocks and also in living cells. That’s right, you have this radioactive kind of carbon INSIDE YOU. You get it by eating those delicious plants. We can tell how long ago something died by how much of it is left.

Tons of shit that occurs naturally is horribly bad for you. And tons of shit that never existed until we cooked it up is great for you—like the chemical compounds in a lot of medications.

PEOPLE WHO BELIEVE THIS SHIT ARE WHY CHILDHOOD DISEASES THAT CAUSED SERIOUS ILLNESSES AND/OR DEATH THAT WE NEARLY ERADICATED WITH VACCINES ARE NOW COMING BACK AND WHY CONSPIRACY THEORIST TWATS ARE ASKING CITY COUNCIL NOT TO FLUORIDATE THE WATER AND WHY GLOBAL WARMING WILL WRECK OUR FUCKING PLANET.

LERN 2 SCIENCE. Think before you reblog. And microwave your veggies.

Why the fuck does every asshat with a chemistry class under their belt assume the only option to microwaving shit is to boil it?!!! Get a steamer, folks.

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thambos:

starsuponhispalms:

yummmmmm

Ooooh this explains so much!!

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happyhues:

RAINBOW JELLO TREATS. (via Geminye Concierge: May 2011)

Salad in a jar. My new favorite must-try idea.

brain-food:

Mette Rankin, of Bureau of Betterment, recently com­pleted some iden­tity and illus­tra­tion work for Well Vegan, a web­site that caters to hun­gry veg­ans who want to eat healthily.

(via yesigrok)

Breakfast of champions.

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ingythings:

BREAKFAST BENTO BOX!

nyfishergal:

Look at that beautiful little box of food….

I need a new breakfast in bed tray… our broke.

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